So i've been living in Japan since September 2012 and god bless Japan for being so safe. Haven't experienced as many terrible things in a year as i did in Denmark and the things i experienced were totally different. In Denmark i had a lot of violence or robbery experience and in Japan its more on a perverted, oral or sexual harassment kinda level. Usually it would be creepy lonely men giving me dirty or creepy comments, taking pictures or asking me "how much?" and not effected by words and them accepting a no I'm fine with that. Those verbally situations i feel like i can control, but last week i experienced something that was totally out of my control.
To sum up what happened here recently, i was already super excited for this weekend. Friday was national holiday and i had planned out how much i was going to sleep, relax and celebrate. I just needed Thursday to be over... FAST! I had double work, first at the pre-school and after at the bar till 11pm and it was hell. I was tired, sleepy and for the first 2-3 hours no customers came so i was pretty much left to myself watching youtube and trying not to fall asleep. My shift was over and i was ready to go home. Stopping by the don quixote on the way because i was craving Jelly Belly's and happily eating them on the way i was truly in my happy moment. That was about to change.
As i turn into my road a guy who pass me does an u-turn after me. I try not to think anything weird of it since he could have been lost or something similar. I just had a weird stranger danger sense so i kept an discrete eye on him. Nothing happened though and i turned into my building and he turns into the building across stopping at the mailboxes at the side of the building. I look at the big Shinjuku tower clock i can see from my building, its midnight. I unlock my door and again get this stranger danger feeling that tells me to look behind me which i did.
I think nothing could ever prepare me for what i was about to see. The guy was standing on a stage like platform in front of the building across mine. He's pants were down and the reflexion of he's insanely pale thighs blinded me but not enough to see what was happening. One hand between he's legs. Eye contact.
My mind went blank, giving the guy probably the most disappointing reaction he's ever had by not having any facial reaction, turning my head and walk into my house locking the door after me. Standing in the entrance surrounded by shoes and the smell of stinky feet it takes me a few seconds to realise what i just saw and the panic kicks in. Not really because the guy was half naked masturbation in front of me but because this happened right outside my house. This freak knows where i live.
Looking out the little peephole in the door seeing the guy was gone, i run up the stairs to the kitchen attacking my roommate with the experience i just had. Making her look out the window while i make sure the door to the 2nd floor is locked. Still panicking i turn to my phone. Who do i contact? Should i call the police? I choose to contact my landlord and had a quite weird conversation about how normal it was for Japanese girls to experience it and that they would just laugh or yell at the guy about how small he's penis was. And i can't help thinking how can this be a pleasant fetish to have for the guy if thats how he is treated?
Starting to calm down i reassess the situation and experience i just had and with comforting words from my landlord i start to think clear. I wasn't touched, i wasn't robbed, i wasn't beaten. Only my brain feels harassed for having to carry that image around for a long time. Worse things could have happened and honestly i feel lucky that the guy only chose to show me he's peewee. Still super annoying that it was outside my house and I'm reminded by it every time i leave or enter my house. Asshole.
Do i still think Japan is safe? Yes.